Ever felt like you are your own roadblock, huh? It’s when ya begin chasin’ a goal, but end up putting things off, questionin’ yourself, or quitting earlier than you shoulda. That, friend, it’s self-sabotage, a real showstopper to getting where ya wanna be.
But listen up theres good news you know? You can totally escape the self-sabotage and find the stuff you can truly do. By seeing the behaviors keepin’ ya down, and changing ’em for better ones you can reach those goals you have, with lots of confidence too.
Inside this article, you are going to find why self-sabotage occurs and how to squash it once and for all.
So what’s this self-sabotage stuff all about anyway?
Self-sabotage is when you actually on purpose or without knowin’ it mess things up so you don’t meet ya goals.
Here’s some of the self-sabotage we are talkin’ about
Procrastination – Pushin’ important tasks cause of fear or uncertainty
Perfectionism – Expectin’ way to much, leavin’ you stuck
Negative self-talk – Telling ya that your not good enough
Fear of failure – Stayin’ away from things you could fail at so you’re not let down.
Self-doubt – Doubting what you can do, even when you know it
All of these will keep ya where you at—but you can escape from them too.
How do you win against Self-Sabotage?
1 Get a good look at the patterns ya follow in self-sabotage.
First thing in changing yourself is knowin’ it. Ask yourself things like
Which habits or behaviors stop me from gettin’ there?
When does procrastination strike, or excuses take hold you know?
What terrors stops you, right?
Journaling can reveal the repeating things that hold back any real wins, you bet!
2 Get that brain right for some victory
Self-sabotage… it often starts from beliefs that aren’t helpful around triumph and self-worth. Do this to get past it:
Say nice stuff – Swap “I’m not good at this” with, “I am so capable, and I deserve winning.”
See it in your head – Visualize winning, and feeling sure of yourself.
Be thankful every day– Think of any steps forward, not expecting pure perfect.
When you change your thinking, your doings change.
3 Smash perfection’s hold!
Perfectionism cause inaction, never seems “good enough.” Go for making progress, not perfect.
Do stuff even if it doesn’t feel ready, understood?
Make errors a chance to grow.
Set goals that are real and you can actually do.
Acting with not perfect is much better than waiting around being super perfect.
4 Make Little Daily Moves Ahead
Success, isn’t one big leap, is it? Small moves, made daily, yep!
Here’s the How To:
Five second thing – Five- four- three- two- one… do it before your head tries stopping you.
Break big things into bits- Just do one piece at a time.
Keep an eye on how you are going – Celebrate little victories, to keep going on.
Each tiny step gains momentum and it also weakens self-sabotage stuff.
5 Replace self-doubt… with self-compassion
Self-sabotage it really thrives, when you’re self-critical. So, instead of being rough on yourself, embrace some self-compassion you know
Speak to yourself, you know like you would to a friend!
See and also really recognize all of your progress you have made instead of just all your goofs you made.
Let go forgive yourself, then keep pushing onward and forward.
When you believe in yourself then you also, stop getting in your own way.
6 Building up and creating, an environment for more growth.
Your environment that around you does play a huge role in success. So, to actually put a stop on self-sabotage:
Surround yourself with people that have positive influences — Really choose people to cheer you up, you know and to actually really encourage you.
Remove distractions and things that trigger you — Fix and also set up a workspace, you know that actually helps you stay focused.
Stay accountable — Tell, talk with a mentor, or maybe a friend about all of the goals you got going on.
Having a supportive environment makes things, it’s much easier to stay on the right track.
Final thoughts
Self-sabotage well it is a habit– and just like a habit you can go and also change it. By finding patterns that are limiting, changing how your mind works, taking those small action steps, and practicing some self-compassion you’ll really be able to break away, from any self-sabotage, and achieve everything and also your fullest potential.
Start, now – What self-sabotaging thing is the first one you are ready, you know, to overcome? Let us know in the comments